Wednesday, May 4, 2011


During our life we meet many people. Some just cross our path, greet us quickly, leave at once. Some get influential on us, teach us, advise us, help us, and others stay longer and become our friends, the most treasured we learn to love and they will be forever in our souls and hearts.
My husbands father is almost ninety years old and he was independent till over a year ago. Then he was hit by a stroke and by that time his wife was already terminally ill. We realized that we needed help and we hired a live-in care taker, thus Pramila from Nepal came into our life. My mother-in-law sadly passed away a little while ago and Pramila is looking after my father-in-law now all the time. Mila, for short, is a dear and kind woman, and she does her job to uttermost satisfaction.
The mental situation of my father-in-law improved a bit, he again recognizes people and understands what is going on most of the time. But he is very weak now physically and gets weaker every day. So for us it is a big appeasement to know he is well cared for on a daily basis in his own environment, at home, not only for the necessities of his fragile body, but also for his emotional needs.
Mila cooks, cleans, does the laundry, helps him to wash and dress, takes him in the wheelchair to the park and for a stroll around the block, or just downstairs to sit in the sun - she is near him all day, keeping him company, always with friendly smiles and assuring words, in her quiet calm way. She plays with him cards and watches with him TV. She gives him his medicine and is very attentive over his well being, keeping him comfortable, trying not to intrude his privacy too much.
When we come to visit, she is pleased and happy and treats us to a hug and to coffee and cookies in a matter of course! We all learned to love her!
Nepal is a very pure country. Milas parents went to search for a better life in India and she was born there. She has seven siblings, brothers and sisters. When she was about eight or nine years old the family returned to Nepal, to the beautiful city of Pokhara, where she grew up. She married and had two children, boys, now 14 and six years old. Due to the harsh economical situation in Nepal many women look for opportunities to improve the life of their families. It is very common now in Israel to hire care takers for the elderly instead of putting them in nursery homes. We have women who work here from Thailand, the Philippines and many from Nepal. Mila got prepared for her job by an agency in her country, with the main purpose on learning the language - and indeed she speaks Hebrew very well! She came here two years ago and this is her second job. All the money she earns goes to her family in Nepal and is saved, with the dream in mind of buying land one day and build a small house.
Her sons live with one of her sisters and are taken care of by their father as well. She talks to them every week on the phone and when she tells me about it her face beams! Another sister is also working here in Israel, she chats with her via e-mail and cell phone most days and meets her occasionally.
In such a short time she became an important and cherished part of our life. She is with us on each family occasion and every one is very fond of her.

Thank you so much for everything Mila!


zsazsazsu said...

very nice story ! I think leaving your children behind for such a long period, this
must be very hard for Mila. Give her a big
hug from me !

Dawn of LaTouchables said...

You are lucky to have such a great person in your life--she has such a wonderful expression on her face--as if she has seen so much! I am sure she has. What a beautiful post, Yael--it is inspiring!

Eva said...

It is so wonderful to have people cooperating and fulfilling one another's needs. Couldn't the world be a better place if there was this fruitful exchange everywhere...

Irmi said...

Liebe Yael,
da habt ihr einen wahren Glücksgriff getan. Sie scheint mit Lust und Liebe an ihre Aufgaben heranzugehen.
Ich war auch mal für 6 Wochen in Nepal und habe diese Menschen als besonders liebenswürdig kennengelernt.
Liebe Grüße

Annuk said...

THANK YOU dear Yael for this wonderful and heartwarming post! Mila is a wonderful woman who, in spite of the hardships of life and leaving her own beloved children behind for a long time, has kept the ability to smile, enjoy life and give her inner light to other people. How inspiring and heartwarming it is to meet a person like this! But in my opinion, there is a kind of "karma" or law of attraction in attracting special people: Mila came into your life to share something precious with you and you are enriching eachother.
Thank you for introducing Mila, and I wish her all the best in her life, and I am sure she is going to make her dream come true.

wanda miller said...

tears and smiles...smiles and tears. i thank you friend, again and again! xo

Hilde said...

A very nice story, Yael :) Thank you for introducing Mila. She seems like a warm and strong woman.
Wishing her all the best, and I hope her dreams come true!
Hugs, Hilde :)

glazedOver Pottery said...

How lucky you are to have found Mila. A blessing on her head!

2 B's World said...

Liebe Yael,
wie gut, daß ihr Mila gefunden habt.
Es ist doch sehr wichtig, daß ihr deinen Schwiegervater in so guten Händen wißt.
Auch wenn man von einem Foto nur einen kleinen ersten Eindruck bekommt, so finde ich, daß Mila eine sehr positive Ausstrahlung auf den Bildern hat.
Ich freue mich für euch und für Mila, denn sicherlich fühlt sie sich in eurer Familie sehr wohl...auch wenn sie ihre Familie sicherlich sehr vermißt.

Liebe Grüße von Birgit
Habt ein schönes sonniges Wochenende

Pesky Cat Designs said...

I'm so glad that you found such a wonderful person to help your father-in-law! Mila is a jem and I wish all her dreams of a home and land come true. She deserves it!

עדי said...

this is a beautiful post!
mila is indeed a wonderfull person.. she became a part of our lives and as if a part of the family.. i do wish all her dreams wil come true!